Small Thing to Think by Claudio V. Tabotabo MA (June, 2005)

"Men marry because they are tired. Women because they are curious and both of them are disappointed."

This is an Oscar Wilde's quotation from the novel Picture of Dorian Gray. Truth be said, I was tired when I got married less than a month ago. I don't know if my wife was only curious. But I am not disappointed. To have somebody who looks after you is the greatest thing that could happen to anyone. After all, there are only these few things that we need; a wife, children and few things necessary to survive. Other things in this world are temporary. Unfortunately many of these men are barred from attaining what is necessary because of these temporal things.

I cannot imagine getting rich in this very poor country. I cannot imagine a righteous man building a castle among the squatters.

To be happy we do not need to excavate what is beyond the needs in accordance with the standard of society. After all it is happiness that we long for, so why labor hard - Outside what is moral when happiness is there with what you have. The nerves in our body that function when we are happy to receive hundred of pesos are the same nerve that function when we are to receive billions.

It is love that lubricates and prolongs relationship and not those sparkling diamonds. In the movie "The Aviator", Howard Hughes the millionaire was in love with a woman. He gives her sapphire but she said, "you cannot buy my love" so the relationship does not prosper and Hughes exists as an insane man, unhappy and unloved with his millions of dollars. We only need few things to be happy but above these few things should be love.

Disappointment in relationship takes place when a partner expects something that is beyond what is necessary. So to elude disappointments never expect, instead ask yourself what you can give and give only what is necessary. There is a limit to everything because extra things are a source of deception. This limitation could expand what is not included in a pre-marital relationship. There is no problem when only the heart is broken when relationship comes to an end.